Sexual Healing
(just kidding, I only happen to like that song; it should actually say "Some of My Thoughts and Feelings Regarding Women's Sexuality and the Way Some Men Approach It", but that would be too long, wouldn't it? :)) )

In this post I'm actually going to use the word "fuck". Just so you know, in case you're planning to read it. And this is something that has very low chances of happening again after today, so you should save it, or maybe even frame it - I know that the use of this kind of language makes me so much more interesting... I feel more like a real woman now... LOL.

I have a bit of a problem: during the last days I've kept reading about a certain article written by a certain woman. Most blogs I visit talk about it, but the Arhiduke's post on this issue finally made me take somewhat of a stand (although I noticed the smiley faces :)) ).
To start off, I am not a feminist. Yeah, I used to consider myself one and had fun with saying men are this and that, but those days are gone. It was related to a past, personal problem and, I guess, a bit of showing off was added into the mix... I don't take generalization so lightly anymore.
On the other hand, I don't understand why some men do exactly what they say women shouldn't be doing: they pose as someone they are NOT. If I write "f..." instead of "fuck", if I don't feel at ease talking about any sexual positions on a forum, let's say, or if I don't start telling people they suck, it means that I'm hiding my true personality, trying to seem a prude. As soon as another woman comes and starts using "bad" words and giving details about her sexual encounters (be it fact or fiction), some men start hailing her and saying that this is the kind of woman they want and that we should all learn from her. I don't even know where to start... but I'll try to make it as short as I can.
1. I don't care what some men want or say they want! And I really don't appreciate it when others "inform" you that your significant other wants the same thing but he just doesn't tell you.
2. Why do they assume? Why does everything have to be a lie? If they hide behind a computer screen it doesn't mean I do the same. OK, yeah, it's cozy, it makes you feel "safe" - I, myself, see the computer monitor and keys as a haven, but not because I lie... it's just because I don't say what doesn't need to be said. I hate being accused of falsity when that's not the case. What I say, I actually mean. This is who I am... I'm not trying to say that the post I'm talking about is a lie... and this is not important, anyway.
3. Some men say they want women to be more open about subjects such as their sexuality, but as soon as one has the "audacity" to make a comment with the least sexual connotation, they "jump on top of her" (they wish :P !) and start alluding to what they could do together or how she should position herself. Can't you see there's something wrong with this picture?
4. Certain things belong in certain places. Yes, I might say, during a casual conversation and if I'm in the right mood, that I enjoy oral sex, for example... and that's already too much. This doesn't mean I'm going to reverse places and talk about my sexual appetite in the kitchen and behave like a lady in the bedroom (not all the time, at least). Oh, I forgot to mention that I don't take my stove and go cook on the street.
5. I might be wrong, but I don't think some men (I was this close to skipping "some" :D) would want their wives or girlfriends to act like sex-hungry creatures all over the place. Again, that's something that belongs in the bedroom. Don't get them mixed! I believe it's all about showing off. Let's just think for a second: if all she talks about is sexual positions and she uses nothing but "dirty" words (oops, I changed the adjective!), what's left for you, the special man in her life? Where's the surprise, where's the intimacy, the bond? Do you still look at her with the same eyes and big smile on your face as when you know that in that special room (or rooms, why not?) she's someone who only "belongs" to you, someone whom only you can see? I'm not going to deny the pleasure a man might feel when another one looks at his half and secretly desires her. I bet he wouldn't feel the same way if she went to the other guy and said something like "I can see it in your eyes that you want to fuck me", although between the two of them this might not sound so bad (depending on what language they speak).
6. I said in an earlier message that I don't see it as "fucking", but as "making love". It's true, but why? Because when you talk to someone you're not familiar with about this, "fucking" becomes a coarse word (in my eyes, at least). In this situation, I simply see it as sex with no feelings involved, and that's something beyond my understanding. That doesn't mean you can't fuck while making love.
Wow! I really needed to get to a certain place inside my mind to write all this :)!