Saturday, October 28, 2006

Undernet Forum vs. Hi5

I was talking earlier to someone about my reasons for joining the Constanta Undernet forum (and kind of moving there after the 30th of January :P ). The starting point of the discussion were the many "friends websites", such as www.hi5.com. I was telling him that I don't see the point in becoming a member of a multitude of sites that allow you to add thousands of pictures of people who call themselves "your friends", but whom you've never met or had any kind of dialogue with. They become "your friends" mainly because they see your picture and enjoy the view. I don't know how many are actually interested in the things you write in your profile. Well, my "partner in crime" said that meeting different people might represent a certain kind of consolation, it might fill a gap from your real life. At first I didn't agree with this idea (and I still don't, so far as hi5 is concerned), but I immediately realised what he meant: he was talking about the exact same feeling I had when joining the forum. I missed home, I missed Constanta, and I missed talking to people my own age about something other than past and present relationships or about how long I had been here for and what courses I was taking. I wasn't looking for friends, I was certain that surfing the net was not the way to start meaningful relationships. I was just trying to fill part of the gap, I guess. As far as friendships go, I was proven wrong. I found there something I had no idea I was missing; to be honest, I didn't even know such a... hmmm... "thing" existed. At the same time I actually made friend...s, pals. I encountered people with interests similar to mine, I had a good laugh sometimes, I got into "fights", I gained knowledge and some strength even. I've learnt so much from the people I found there! I've learnt that I have so much more to learn, that, although I tend to be oversensitive, I can still move on and accept others' opinions or just discard and ignore them and that whatever many years can't heal may just go away in a few days. I've discovered that whenever you feel the need to just scream and let it all out there'll be something that saves you at the last minute and gives you the power to keep smiling, that everything has a solution and that what looks like a mean remark may be meant to encourage you to express yourself... I've understood many, many things. I'm not going to talk about the downside of Undernet forum... let's try and stay positive :) .
Hi5 and all similar sites, on the other hand, don't inspire me. I opened a hi5 account out of curiosity (I had even forgotten I had one for a while) and I was extremely disappointed. I tried to have fun for a few days, but I only enjoyed browsing the profiles of people I was familiar with... that was about it. Nothing interesting.

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

daca am plecat eu, undernet is down :D:D:D:

Mirela said...

N-as merge chiar atat de departe, dar lipsa ti se simte.

Anonymous said...

Uite mamiiiii sunt pe netttttt!!! :))) Poate inta si Bibi si tot neamu' ca si-a luat compiutar nah ce sa facem si noi. Prefer forumul undernet fata de hi5 (unde nici macar n-am cont) in orice zi.

Mirela said...

Ia uite cine-a trecut pe-aici! :))) . Sa stii ca sunt bine vazuta de catre cei de la Google, am si ranking, pot sa te ajut sa te lansezi, sa te vada o lume-ntreaga :))) . Mi-ai facut o surpriza placuta, multumesc :) .

Anonymous said...

'hi5 thing' ... definitely, exhibitionistic, bawdy, shamming, u name it ... yet, with very few 'except-ions' ...

Mirela said...

I have to admit I'm a little confused as far as your comment goes :) . It must've been the "definitely" what set me off on the wrong track. I tend to believe the "exceptions" are good ones, from your point of view, that is :) .
By the way... something you must've heard thousands of times before... amazing photos :) !