Trust Gogu Kaizer :P

Gogu Kaizer wrote an interesting post about respect and trust. I had finally found the courage to leave a comment :P, but I was a bit thrown off by the other messages and I also thought that what I had to write would occupy too much space. So...
I don't think there is a list of rules that can guide you towards trusting or not trusting someone. There is not one single thing I could say that others can do in order to gain my trust. What seems right coming from one person might not impress me about someone else. There is not one moment when I decide to trust someone: "OK, from now on (Wednesday, January 17, 2007, 4.19 pm) I will have faith in this person". I just feel it; I don't need to ask myself when it came or why... it would take away its charm. There are many good things I could say about someone I trust, and why I consider them to be my friends. Let's just say that when my head and my heart follow the same direction it's a good sign. It doesn't happen very often, but when it does I know I just can't go wrong.
Now, generally speaking :P, sometimes we can be fooled. Thing is, we need to make mistakes in order to appreciate our other friends and the new ones who will come along, if we allow them to. But these mistakes, which should be proven before jumping to conclusions, should not determine us to say that from now on we won't trust anyone else. We can't decide this, and even if we could, we'd be missing out on so many great experiences. It's good to be a little cautious, but let's not overreact.
At the same time... we can't throw away all the proofs we've received before just for some little incident. People have good days and bad days. What may seem like a big mistake to you could be just a slip on the other person's part. I know I couldn't just erase a proven friendship just because of a problem that appears out of the blue and leaves me confused. It happens, we all make mistakes and that's what friends are for: to understand and, if that's the case, to forgive. We can go through different stages: anger, a feeling of broken trust, desire to erase everything and move onward, always with the promise that we won't trust again; then retrospective should take the place of all these feelings and realize that things may not be as bad as they look and that what may seem to be a wrongful action could have a completely different conotation in the other's view. It is also very important to wonder whether that friendship is worth being thrown away for this. If the answer is a definite "yes", then we might be right in doing so. But if there's nothing major we can say against that relationship and if we feel the other person has always been a good friend, we shouldn't want to lose that and just be a bit patient. Sometimes we all need time. If we don't feel angry for more than a second, why strive to get back that feeling? If we know that we would start all over, following the same line, why talk about "walls" and "mistakes"? We are not more interesting if we say we'll never be able to trust that person or anyone else ever again. Things happen. Let's just hold on to our trust until the last possible moment, even if small thoughts keep getting in the way. If we give up too easily, we need to wonder whether we cared as much as we say we did and whether we have the right to feel hurt.